The Problem With Blame.

Are you a product of your environment or is your environment a product of you?

Most times, we credit external factors for our issues. He is so hard to get along with, This environment isn’t a good fit for me, I am late because of traffic…

Anyone else had a work environment like this? Adults… we are just tall children.

The problem with blaming external factors is that we lose control. Without control, change is harder to achieve.

I encourage us all to try to avoid blaming factors that we can not control or change. Instead, focus on your position in any uncomfortable situation or relationship.

My therapist always reminds me of this in a caring way. It’s not about being hard on yourself, no one is perfect and anyone that demands perfection of you, should be avoided. By avoiding blaming others and focusing on yourself, you gain control of the uncomfortable circumstance. With self accountability, you gain the option to influence the environment, or leave. Do not question what you are doing wrong, ask yourself, what can you do better?

You may be a product of your environment. You also have the power to influence your environment to become product of you. 🙂


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3 responses to “The Problem With Blame.”

  1. Great post! It’s easy to place the blame else where when we don’t want to take accountability!

  2. Love it! Food for thought! Am I a product of my environment is something To think about! Thanks for sharing!

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